How educated youth (b)

 How parenting adolescents (b)
Jiang Xiuqin
sermon last time we talked about finishing, please brothers and sisters go home with your child to the light you need for confession and Mongolia, one by one to plead guilty do please raise their hands after doing what is effect? What happened? please do some witnessing.
 sister witnessed: Jiang pastor say, I know go back to do, but I very weak, only tears, prayers are prayers do not come out, to do so according to this very difficult for me. I used to plead guilty, admit, also recognized many times over, but did not like this so difficult. good pressure, I could not obey. I go back Friday to teach listening, very sad because I see myself so disobedient, he will cry to God to help me, no wonder my children the same way . I have no way to face the child told them that reading can not afford, from the time they pass by, I started not to export, I know that my heart is not ready. Saturday morning I attended prayer meeting in the afternoon there are other things , do not think about it, and put it in my heart. because there is no obedience, a lot of pressure. Saturday night did not go back and make the future, until the Sunday after the main home, I do not know a non-inside still no power, I come to God to have been kneeling before the Lord, the time to cook dinner, I cook dinner for the children to eat, but I could not eat, not because of fasting, but there is no way to eat. I has been shed tears before God, until about half past nine, I think I can go to confession, although still very scared. Jiang asked us only with the youth pastor pleaded guilty, but I look at your attitude toward teaching children has always been a very bad So I have pleaded guilty to each child. I saw the youngest child, I'll catch her room, I would like to begin with she pleaded guilty. my youngest child is 9 years old, she is very naive, and I burst into tears in front of her , said, are to other people care because their families are too baby, but you were 9 years old, but also to help me clean up the yard, to help my family, I will hit you at every turn. very touched, tears, holding my hand as I prayed and asked God to help me change. I said, Man You hope that he can plead guilty with three other children, because I have four children, the youngest daughter is 9 years old, the youngest daughter is 13 years old, the younger son to nearly 16 years of age, the eldest son is approaching 20 years old. I want to plead guilty with another daughter, the result I went out, she has to sleep. Originally I thought a lot of pressure, there is no way to plead guilty, but when I made impressive advances a step beyond, I determined to obey, and I two sons went to great interest before, and I said, at me, say come back to, but back to me heart so cold, I see the seeds of his past, and now to collect their own, really very sad.
already lost a lot of tears, and turned back to the room, tears are pouring out. But I went into room inside my heart there is a very strange feeling, like when King David died, his son got up from the ground to eat the kind of feeling, I suddenly thought of it tomorrow, my heart to pray, to you to morrow, slept until Monday morning, two points up, it has been since before the Lord. I know I really have to be very alert, I know this like I used to plead guilty plea, a plea that I used in my own ideas which how to recognize, but this time I want to talk to the pastor according to Jiang recognition. and I am well aware of my age, every child is different and can not pull together to recognize once finished, I want to go one by one recognition, but also according to Jiang pastor teach, how to say his speech, attitude, how, how to tone, I clearly know that it was difficult for me, but I have to do so. Results Monday afternoon to take them After returning home, I prepared the first lesson in the room as carefully as, once again with the main plea, really like the way to fight it. I first moved there with her second child, said to begin with the second child identified, and here I not explained in detail. the most important I want to talk about my youngest daughter with the case pleaded guilty, she was 13 years old, I said, with you plead guilty, As the children write the issues are not the same, I put my own problems first, said, she said, ;, according to Jiang and then I asked her pastor to teach, the love of God inside us, God help me, so I can recognize that I used to harm the child. , there are two, one is similar with those teachings, one is taught not in. look at her so hard I'm so moved, I took her hand and said River priest is not in school tone, but really to tell her a not impress her hand, I felt the Holy Spirit fell and every word she said while crying. I found a child could actually matured to the point where I really found myself on the child's injuries are so big the Holy Spirit in her work, her prayers and full of love, very loving, she thanked the Lord to give her such a good mother, it was her first sentence, she also Lord help me to get rid of my hot temper. She out when I asked her to call in the big brother. That is my most do not want to face a child.
boss came in, I look at him, my heart is trembling, because he did not see me coming , head down, I said I feel really talking about Jiang priest Yeah, I have a lot of mistakes, I am to you plead guilty, ;, he said, far, when he came in I really felt he took a wall, that wall to divide us far better. Just do not go I'm going to say, when I suddenly remembered, I have not prayed, I said Then we come to pray and let God's love rest upon us and help us, Then you give me your hand, and we pray in hand, obedience in the end, completely according to teaching to do, feel the power of God to me to obey. I grabbed his hand prayer owed, but the Lord your love can help him, . When I asked said, if we can say it, the problem is not big, but he was to the point where we can not say that. He did not say, can only try to say by me, or did not face the words of two people, I say My mother used to you so strict, in fact, did not mean to be so, it is the body has a responsibility to teach, because I love you, wishing you good, you listen, so there will be some problems with the method. because we were young methods accepted is like this, I do not know the Lord before, giving rise to so much harm you, if I know the Lord early, you will not be affected by the hurt. To those who suffered for you, I really sorry, I I'm really sorry, but I know I'm sorry about ten thousand are of no use, only the love of Jesus can clean the inside of your injury, do not put your own mind whether it hurt, you will relapse when the time , those wounds that I bring to you. , and rather than plead guilty, and I said, What are my talking, I told him, God has healed me, I really thank the Lord, I wish you have been healed by God. Did you find you happy for days sometimes, but all of a sudden and unhappy, and I am very distressed, but not know how to help you, your emotions have been ups and downs, in fact, because you do not have these injuries come into the presence of God that you are not completely healed, you only hurt those buried in my heart, when my heart uncomfortable when there are views of some people and things, you come to another issue, in fact very loss of your own. I said and done, and then ask him God, to pray it, his head up, and I found out he was laughing, smiling makes me think blessing, because if you advice me what you can to pray for the Lord will help me also that their confidence is not, I say these things today is to repent before God for a long time before that, because I have no confidence in myself, I know, I just can not change on their own, but you want to us have confidence in God, with all the problems you come to God, do you want me to change what you say before God, God will help me change it. . pray, I do think of those actions, because we face, I said you can hit me, but no one movement, I wait there quietly, after a while a hand to catch the come, take on me, thank the Lord, the Holy Spirit of God poured out on this, my mind is that the After the Cross ; Lord, I thank you, I know you all that the environment is arranged, you have some good intentions, please, look after her mother's body, the father is often not at home, she was a man to take care of our four children, I know her very hard, you have to help her look after his body, but also to help her get rid of her temper, help my mother, but also to help me, let us love the Lord more and more the pursuit of the Lord, jump. Thank God, God's eyes have been watching us, I submit to that which the whole process a little feel of the Holy Spirit, I have so much time pressure, wishing the Lord to comfort me, but at the time that the Holy Spirit not the same at the time, I can only repent. (when children pray for my hands, such a large outpouring of the Holy Spirit), I believe that God's kindness is the way to do it to my faith. He prayed over, and I prayer, I prayed over, I turned around and holding him over the years, ever since our second child, I seem to have no hold over him. I hold him, deeply felt love of God me, but I did not feel he would carry me, I said kissed his face, every child who moves I have done. Maybe they do not know, their hands on me, I truly felt the Holy Spirit band down, I can not remember the Which section of the tape heard this important, because her words with power is from God. In the course of conversation with the son, there are times when I almost gave up when he said In this way, then I went out first, so later you think, you tell me. When I finished with him to apologize, pray over, I said the relaxed joy, I do not know how these stairs I go, like a fly past, to the kitchen to look, already 8 o'clock. get in your first child is 5 points, with three children confession prayer finished, three hours had passed. Praise the Lord, he has been with us, and very grateful to Jiang pastor taught us so well, so I can resume relations with the children, and I really pray that out ; Lord Jesus, I really believe that you will help us, Lord Jesus, you really want to separate mother and child that can not we tear down a wall, the ice to melt away, With eyes to see effective results, but I believe that obedience to the process I did, I believe the Lord will be accomplished, thank God.】
River priest: just to eat, sister's son sitting next to me and said feel the Holy Spirit poured out, you feeling it, children pleaded guilty, how the joy of the Holy Spirit, God, what a joy, the joy of God in giving him the same down, his mother said, as current as the Holy Spirit has been poured out, has been watered down, and she identified with the three children pleaded guilty to three hours each child for an hour, and prayed for her three children are taken off the outpouring of the Holy Spirit in her, so she was so relaxed so joyful, and her children have with the medical treatment. You know, when the children tell you admit to me, next time it again, and then the next time it again, I do not want to talk to her, and more hard, unless we truly down, you down much, sincerely confessed how much, how much of your face die, you win back your kids how much how much your child to get medical treatment. like her daughter, usually looks nice, and say what to do, if not because of her repentance, she did not know hurt her. In fact, we have been brought unwittingly hurt a child, her daughter was with her mentioning that is Sometimes you told me to do one thing, but I have not done this thing, you called me to do the second thing, to do the second thing, I forgot the first thing, then you would call me very difficult to talk about things, but the children will note on the inside.
If last week did not come, you can listen to recordings, and those are the voices of 20 young people, the truth, you listen, and look, which some of my own there, talk to the child pleaded guilty, and not only to identify those points I'm talking about. You also asked the main light, recognize the more thorough, faster recovery at home, if you save face, half face down, half humble, it is very slow, and children will soon return to its original appearance, therefore, humility, and became obedient unto death , you will rise from the dead, your child will rise from the dead. so guilty about the things with the kids, I have little to add, you have asked what are the main light, do not think that only those, we sometimes have deceived do not know. like the last time after, there was a brother to tell me, His children are all at least 20 children in the complaint, but because the father has been learning the past two years, obedience, obedience, so that opening the ears, and the old themselves down, so he said he committed each and every point In fact, many of them are former offenders, there is still guilty of some, but former criminals, he feels indebted to the child, this is the right attitude. Do not feel that No, but you have committed or caused harm to the child, unless you go apologized, pleaded guilty before, or children who are still hurt inside, because the young mind can not withstand the damage that would result in him the shadow of Therefore, criminals have previously recognized. I found that the father of his child is at least complain about every point he actually said that he has, but some children complain is the largest, but it may be, his parents But do not think. So we are to request the main light, are hurt, some do, children to be hurt, will rebound to the parents. So just to bear witness to the sisters, identified to complete the crime is so easy, how much burden back prior to, ah, because the family is not happy Well, your child always cold, indifferent to you, though you call, he will come, but this relationship should not be.
In addition, on the plea, there is a very important point, I hope that husband and wife Never blame each other, between each other, even though I mentioned that point is likely to be your other half there, but you do not blame the other half, because the husband and wife are one, when I hurt the other half of the children, but also other so I injury to a child, because we are one, is sector, it is very clear, this is God created, God knows, the devil knows, so they might have every one of God's head, the devil has always wanted to be the head of every one, that if the first humble spiritual head down , talk to the child pleaded guilty, this would bring great blessings of a home. but generally a father's often on the outside, the mother with young kids, and more contact surface, contact time is long, so the chance of mistakes hurt the children more. Dad we can not go to blame the mother said, to teach math, teach a bad temper, where angry, my brother said, he began to shout louder than me his wife. Therefore, a father's will say would be so nagging, all day with her children because she, her mother see the child's fault most often be nagging him. but the father returned, the children did not see him one day, so children will be very happy with their father hold play together, are less likely to show weaknesses in front of you. This is the husband really need to know, if a spiritual head first down with the kids humble plea, you will find a spiritual home, the air is not the case, So last time we talked about those, do not wish to cause you and your spouse to blame each other. We look at this verse:
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, as long as the Lord's nurture and admonition of them.
provoke your children what? is provoking speech on the child's anger, we last talked some about what we need to be aware, these characters will be hurt the child, the performance of our physical body is easy to hurt the child.
First, the authority of our authoritarian parents of high-handed policy, self-righteousness, which is easy to provoke children to anger, the child will be dissatisfied. like you are king, you have to high-pressure , you unreasonable. because you little bigger than him, so he can not, he beat you, he just served you on the surface, so he looks taller than you, you even think about taking even him, you will not even think about re- shouted to him, he will turn to fight you, so how much pressure you, you will gain your child how much bounce. Do not self-righteous, like I do most parents are always right, do not, parents will be wrong, in fact, As long as parents are often mistaken, will admit that I was wrong, the child will respect you more, the more you want to a pair of parents, the sanctity of the way, feel the Empress Dowager Cixi, I am king, you are more so, children from their hearts override you, he refuses to accept that he was waiting for that one day he taller than you, waiting for the day over 18, he can far away from you, so that children feel their parents are not unreasonable, he did not want to talk to you communicate, his heart will close up. So, when children express what, you do not immediately go to his pressure, let him speak.
the second point, roaring, emotional, nagging, these are emotional, emotional parents, the children will be emotional, because the parents themselves are not in orbit, that jumped up, so After his children will be explosive, so attention is paid properly over the inner life, which will help you. nagging parents have almost every phenomenon, like a child do not like to talk with her mother, because his mother did not focus on, one would say that, while about that, did not focus. parents to learn one thing, because I do pastor, in fact, also in the parents, can tell you transport it. I just came out to serve the Lord, is the service things the students, love these students, in their good will tell them, if the child will not listen, I'll talk to him, then talk to him, told him that I would have a risk that he always wanted to listen to in, but when I serve more years later, the more I read the Bible, I found the Lord Jesus is not the case, Jesus never nag, never forced, Jesus said, have ears to hear, let him hear, I read These, I said Love the ;, does God not love us? God loves us, of course. But God knows that he will not listen to the time when you deliberately he Niuguo Lai, he was not listening. So, I started to learn the Lord Jesus, and some things that I sense on the podium, and if I speak privately with a person once, I found that he did, I do not talk about this, because you are already an adult. so I let the parents of children under the age of 8 do not , because of the children is not the case teaching method, children are easily forgotten, to how to raise your children according to the five steps that he should go, let him have ears to hear, but a young child into the future, you He should be treated as adults, he insists that if you say, he feels nagging, he would be more backlash. On the contrary, sometimes you do not say, he will then think back what you said.
as we kiss the small house in the Association, where we meet, we have a sister in the kitchen cooking, just someone to share testimony, she really want to, but she's next to two young people in speech, we The sisters Martina told them ; hey, please do not talk, OK? I want to hear, After speaking, the two young people have no further speech. So you sometimes have to hold back, do not be provoked to his word, his speech was stabbed young sometimes, some places are not unreasonable, he clearly is still speech, he cares, but he blame you, Just draw the knife between the two of you go on, and then angry are two of you in the mood.
adults and children will forgive, after a while will have passed, but the kids will not, because his birth parents parents to be able to forgive him, but children will not, unless the parents to talk to his real mistake, or he would remember. So, we do not follow the child, by his mess up, you need to know if the child has been convicted, he would argue , if you have been convicted him and said, has been refuted you, so you do not often have convict him, and you do not hold back the last sentence, are you not to speak at this time, but to praise God, he does not any more. so young you must not use hard, You must use software, that of how they do? you can give them the principle, they are actually or unreasonable, if he committed a principle, you say on the need to do, Like, you illegal, the police give you a ticket is not good, he will not tell you or call you have been whining? you young people need this. many times why we have no way of young people like this? because I think this is my child, I gas up and scolded. But today, if it is other people's children came to our house, he also so that we will not criticize, right? So you want your child as a child of God not my child, you will respect him, polite. I find young people to exchange with the support, and will keep better than that, why? because everyone is very polite the children of others, particularly their children not to patient approach, we have to respect him, respect other people's children like that.
Also, count words, bad faith, the child is no way to respect you. So you set the child to have to do it, you should not be lightly write a check, to count, to be trustworthy. especially your agreement with the child, you have to remember is you do not care, do not think I party with my friends is more important, I can always cancel the agreement with the child, you have to cancel it, keep up kids to learn to apologize.
I said these points, if you are often guilty of, then there is no way your children respect you. You have to parenting adolescents, the most important is that you pay him respect. you deserve his respect, he hears you speak. there is a youth, he said that a people do not listen to people talk about, I said, people talk about, of the performance, nagging, yelling, tantrums, to come to pressure him, talk bad faith, which he will not come to respect you.
In addition, the selfish, utilitarian, the children will not respect you. parents in the Green performance of juveniles before they have a very clear treatment of others in the parents, if you have some selfish performance, including your talking on the phone, you hang up your other half followed by the words spoken, and your selfish , utilitarianism, children will not respect you. though you thought it was love children, but he will know that you are very selfish. But if a parent will often think of others, love others, even if the comparison at the expense of our own children and children will respect you.
a youth said, my parents said, so I went to give my old car, but he gave me this car because I thought he could run errands, I can have a car buy things for him. So the children do not feel he is true to his parents and love him, often feel a transaction, not a love to give. These will have to pay attention.
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